In business the largest obstacle to overcome is your self. The biggest bully and blockage comes from you. Your traumas and pain will fuel you to get started as they tug at you to heal, but getting to the next step will require you to challenge your self-talk and build new habits. These are the books that saved my life, changed my perception and expanded me while affirming my understanding of what it really means to run a company.
Ps. Audio books are my fav so if you can listen to these while you drive, walk or just live, please do!
In no particular order here it goes:
THE UNTETHERED SOUL: THE JOURNEY BEYOND YOURSELF
"What would it be like to free yourself from limitations and soar beyond your boundaries? What can you do each day to discover inner peace and serenity? The Untethered Soul -now a #1New York Times bestseller-offers simple yet profound answers to these questions. Whether this is your first exploration of inner space , or you've devoted your life to the inward journey, this book will transform your relationship with yourself and the world around you. You'll discover what you can do to put an end to the habitual thoughts and emotions that limit your consciousness. By tapping into traditions of meditation and mindfulness, author and spiritual teacher Michael A. Singer shows how the development of consciousness can enable us all to dwell in the present moment and let go of painful thoughts and memories thatkeep us from achieving happiness and self-realization.Copublished with the Institute of Noetic Sciences (IONS) TheUntethered Soulbegins by walking you through your relationship with your thoughts and emotions, helping you uncover the source and fluctuations of your inner energy. It then delves into what you can do to free yourself from the habitual thoughts, emotions, and energy patterns that limit your consciousness. Finally, with perfect clarity, this book opens the door to a life lived in the freedom of your innermost being. The Untethered Soul has already touched the lives of countless readers, and is now available in a special hardcover gift edition with ribbon bookmark -the perfect gift for yourself, a loved one, or anyone who wants a keepsake edition of this remarkable book.Visit www.untetheredsoul.com for more information. "
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This book saved my heart. I mean really saved my life.I stumbled upon this book after a major break-up, and thought it would be a great distraction. I had no clue it would get me together. This book speaks to everyday life snuggles from a spiritual perspective but is not from any particular religion. Frankly most major religious teachings are referenced at some point but the focus of this book is how to navigate life from a more emotionally healthy perspective. The book calls into question some concerning aspects of how we live our lives. The key lessons I took away is the need to stay open hearted to life, let go of the need to protect the ego and ultimately I found tools to live an emotionally balanced and harmonious life style. I have read this book a few times and it has been may go to reference point when emotional trauma starts to rise up in my being.
The Four Agreements
In The Four Agreements, bestselling author don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.
- A New York Times bestseller for over a decade
- Over 6.5 million copies sold in the U.S.
- Translated into 40 languages worldwide
This book by don Miguel Ruiz, simple yet so powerful, has made a tremendous difference in how I think and act in every encounter." - Oprah Winfrey
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This book has changed my way of thinking and put a lot of life into perspective. We often think that the things that hurt us mentally and emotionally must do so. These agreements have been a tool for me to take a personal self inventory and realize all of my struggles have more to do with my perception then reality. Its a short read, well worth it.
Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear
Turn down the volume on that voice inside your head saying "you're not creative," and turn up the volume on the sound of Elizabeth Gilbert explaining very clearly why you most certainly are.
She has the kind of voice where you can literally hear her smiling as she gives you permission to pursue what inspires you. This beloved author of Eat Pray Love digs deep into her own generative process and personal history to share her unique wisdom about creativity. She shows us how to tackle what we most love and how to face down what we most fear. She discusses the attitudes, approaches, and habits we need in order to live our most creative lives. Balancing between soulful spirituality and cheerful pragmatism, Gilbert encourages us to write a book, make art, find new ways to address challenges in our work, embark on a dream long deferred, or simply infuse our everyday lives with more mindfulness and passion, Big Magiccracks open a world of wonder and joy.
Don't let the word "magic" in the title fool you—this book is all about demystifying how to embrace your creativity. She narrates with warmth and humor, tells great anecdotes along the way, and feels like an old friend by the finish.
©2015 Elizabeth Gilbert
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This booked gave me life after reaching a large professional goal of mine and still feeling unfilled. I believed at the time that my creative pursuits were meant to sooth my emotional discomfort one way or another. I was terrified of simply not being successful enough while also feeling the need to continue to create in one capacity or another. This book does a great job at speaking to the both the practical aspects or being and artist/entrepreneur and the mystical process of following ones calling. Gilbert made me feel like all that matters is the pursuit while ultimately it doesn't matter at all so no need to pressure my self into perfection. My fav take away is her reference to the "shit sandwich" that comes along with the choice to create. This is essentially the knowing that no matter what you choose to dedicate your life to it will come with emotional and physical barrier such as rejection, self doubt, long hours and so much more. She bluntly express that it is not your arts job to support your life style, it is your job to do everything in your power to support your pursuit of following your calling and if you choose to, you must prepare your self for the inevitable difficulties. If you take nothing also from this book know that it is a reminder that while your fear is trying to protect you, let it take a backseat and never drive the car to your calling. This book was humbling and inspiring.
Rising Strong: The Reckoning. The Rumble. The Revolution
If you're one of the two trillion people who've heard her TED Talk, you already know Brené Brown is worth a listen. This time, she "puts her heart where her mouth is" to honestly help people get through life's inevitable failures and disappointments.
The physics of vulnerability is simple: If we are brave enough often enough, we will fall. The author of the #1 New York Times best sellers Daring Greatly and The Gifts of Imperfection tells us what it takes to get back up, and how owning our stories of disappointment, failure, and heartbreak gives us the power to write a daring new ending. Struggle, Brené Brown writes, can be our greatest call to courage and rising strong our clearest path to deeper meaning, wisdom, and hope.
Always a customer favorite, Brown's latest book will inspire you to join her as she unpacks our culture of—as she puts it—"gold-plating grit"—and get at the real value of failure.
©2015 Brené Brown
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By now you clearly understand that how successful you are is linked to your emotional health and ability to form healthy connections. This may not be the case for all successful people, but all the entrepreneur stories I have encountered has essentially expressed this to be the case and I can relate. The more I understand my self the more I am able to stand behind my brand, policies and every other aspect of having integrity in business. This book offered to be a guiding principle that I encourage you as a budding entrepreneur and Hustler to implement and that is the Anatomy of Trust. I won't get into it to much hear but I will say this is a great book for you to read if you are looking to understand how to build healthy strong relationships with integrity and sustainability. If you don't know, as an entrepreneur you are in the people business. It is worth your time to invest in understanding how to cultivate relationships.
Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person
Yes. Go ahead. Say it. To everything. Now what?
In this super fun listen, Shonda Rhimes—mega-talented creator of Grey's Anatomy and Scandal, and executive producer of How to Get Away with Murder—lets you in on how saying yes for one year changed her life—and how it can change yours, too.
With three hit shows on television and three children at home, Rhimes had lots of good reasons to say no when an unexpected invitation arrived. Hollywood party? No. Speaking engagement? No. Media appearances? No.
And there was the side benefit of saying no for an introvert like Shonda: nothing new to fear.
Then Shonda's sister laid down a challenge: For just one year, try to say yes to the unexpected invitations that come your way. Shonda reluctantly agreed—and the result was nothing short of transformative.
Her charming delivery makes Shonda Rhimes feel like an old friend by the end of this personal story. Her experience shows you the powerful impact saying yes had on every aspect of her life—and how we can all change our lives with one little word. So do it. Say yes.
©2015 Ships at a Distance, Inc.
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This BOOK!!! LET ME TELL YOU!! SHONDA RHIMES IS EVERYTHING! If you can get the audio version please do because she reads it personally and she is so funny!! This book changed my life. Hands down she pushed me to believe in my self more and doped wisdom in love, friendship, motherhood and career success. This book should be read by every Black Women. Regardless of your industry the information is relevant. My take away from this was how to live a fuller more honest life. She speaks about the concept of attaining your own chocolate and danm... You need to read it personally to understand the fullness of her story. Please do not play your self by sleeping on this modern day guide to being a Black Profesional Women.
YOU ARE A BADASS: HOW TO STOP DOUBTING YOUR GREATNESS AND START LIVING AN AWESOME LIFE
Best-selling author, speaker, and world-traveling success coach Jen Sincero's approach to self-help is not for the soft. Velvet gloves? Not her style. The smoke in her voice lets you know she's not going to shy away from the truth.
She cuts through the din of the self-help genre with her own verbal meat cleaver in You are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life. In this refreshingly frank how-to guide, Sincero serves up twenty-seven bite-sized chapters full of hilariously inspiring stories, life-changing insights, easy exercises, and the occasional swear word.
Via chapters such as "Your Brain Is Your Bitch," "Fear Is for Suckers," and "My Subconscious Made Me Do It," Sincero takes you on a wild joy ride to your own transformation, helping you create the money, relationships, career, and general all-around awesomeness you so desire. And should you be one of those people who dreads getting busted with a self-help book in your hands, fear not.
Sincero, a former skeptic herself, delivers the goods, giving even the snarkiest of poo-pooers exactly what they need to get out of their ruts and start kicking some ass. By the end of You are a Badass, you will understand why you are how you are, how to love what you can't change, how to change what you don't love, and how to start living the kind of life you used to be jealous of.
Sincero's blunt, bold, laugh-out-loud funny book is the audiobook equivalent of that cigarette you smoked outside your high school gym. It will make you a badass.
©2013 Jen Sincero
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This book is all around dope because it provides practical steps on healing the traumas that impact success. This book is certainly approaching success from a spiritual connection with the creator and others. If you struggle with manifestation and have just begun making the changes needed to live the life you were divinely intended this is the book for you. Personally this book offered a reminder to me that I have the power to manifest anything I desire because the universe loves me unconditionally and wants me to live my purpose.
The first thing Sophia Amoruso sold online wasn’t fashion - it was a stolen book. She spent her teens hitchhiking, committing petty theft, and dumpster diving. By twenty-two, she had resigned herself to employment, but was still broke, directionless, and working a mediocre day job she’d taken for the health insurance.
It was there that Sophia decided to start selling vintage clothes on eBay. Eight years later, she is the founder, CEO, and creative director of Nasty Gal, a $100 million plus online fashion retailer with more than 350 employees. Sophia’s never been a typical CEO, or a typical anything, and she’s written #GIRLBOSS for outsiders (and insiders) seeking a unique path to success, even when that path is winding as all hell and lined with naysayers.
#GIRLBOSS includes Sophia’s story, yet is infinitely bigger than Sophia. It’s deeply personal yet universal. Filled with brazen wake-up calls (“You are not a special snowflake”), cunning and frank observations (“Failure is your invention”), and behind-the-scenes stories from Nasty Gal’s meteoric rise, #GIRLBOSS covers a lot of ground. It proves that being successful isn’t about how popular you were in high school or where you went to college (if you went to college). Rather, success is about trusting your instincts and following your gut, knowing which rules to follow and which to break.
A #GIRLBOSS takes her life seriously without taking herself too seriously. She takes chances and takes responsibility on her own terms. She knows when to throw punches and when to roll with them. When to button up and when to let her freak flag fly.
As Sophia writes, “I have three pieces of advice I want you to remember: Don’t ever grow up. Don’t become a bore. Don’t let The Man get to you. OK? Cool. Then let’s do this.”
©2014 Sophia Amoruso
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This book is great for those wanting to understand the journey to success. Amoroso's story is slightly a ragged to riches story but the benefit is she explains pretty much how she did it. Some of the information may feel outdated but most of it can still be applied to the social media marketing and scaling a product based business. Over all the major take away for me was the importance of learning all aspects of the business, being resourceful may mean being your own photographer, accountant and maybe even assistant. This booked offered me a reminder of how quickly things can change and a reminder of things to watch out for as I grow my own company.
Normal Gets You Nowhere
nor-mal: according with, constituting, or not deviating from a norm, rule or principle / conforming to a type, standard, or regular pattern / of, relating to, or characterized by average intelligence or development
Who wants to be that?
When Kelly Cutrone’s first book, If You Have to Cry, Go Outside, was first published, young people flocked to this new voice - finally, someone was telling it like it is, in language they spoke. It quickly became a New York Times bestseller, and fashion publicist Kelly Cutrone became more than a personality, she became a beloved guru, mentor, and fairy godmother.
Now she’s back with another no-holds-barred book to awaken our souls and kick our asses into gear. With Normal Gets You Nowhere, she invites us to get our freak on. History is full of successful, world-changing people who did not fit in. Think Nelson Mandela, Joan of Arc, Eleanor Roosevelt, Amelia Earhart, John Lennon, and Rosa Parks. Instead of changing themselves to accommodate the status quo or what others thought they should be, these people hung a light on their differences - and changed humanity in the process.
“I know you don’t feel normal, so why are you trying to act it and prove to everyone you are?” Cutrone says. So much of what we say or don’t say, and what we do or don’t do, is dictated by what others have told us, or what people may think of us. This is not how we should be living, by measuring ourselves against the mundane.
An invitation to rethink who you are, what you value, and what you want from life, Normal Gets You Nowhere goes beyond how to reinvent yourself and create your own brand, and investigates what it means to live in this world as a tuned-in, caring individual with a passion for making a difference. There’s already an army of super talented uberfreaks changing the world–isn’t it time you joined it time you joined them?
©2011 Power of the Word Productions, Inc.
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If you are paying attention to anything in Hollywood you know Cutrone is a no nonsense to the point business women. Similar to year of yes but from the perspective of a white women she speaks about living abundant, integral and holistic as a career women. Her tips apply to motherhood, family, partnerships and business development. My key take aways from this book were how to blend spirituality and realism.
Crazy Is a Compliment: The Power of Zigging When Everyone Else Zags
In the tradition of both The Lean Startup and Lean In, a manifesto about taking smart risks in pursuit of big dreams.
Linda Rottenberg has spent her career helping innovators think big. "If people aren't calling you crazy, you aren't thinking big enough," she says. These days taking chances isn't just for young college dropouts in hoodies. Whether you work at a Fortune 500 company, a non-profit, or a mom-and pop store, everybody needs to think and act like a changemaker. We all need to be nimble, adaptive, daring, and maybe even a little crazy, or risk being left behind.
But how do you take smart risks and still achieve big success? That's Rottenberg's expertise as the CEO and cofounder of Endeavor, the world’s leading organization devoted to identifying, mentoring, and investing in fast-growing businesses. Since 1997, Endeavor has screened 40,000 candidates and handpicked 1,000 entrepreneurs in 20 countries - then helped them take the crucial steps to grow their organizations and transform their communities. In 2012, Endeavor entrepreneurs generated six billion in revenues and provided 225,000 jobs.
Now Rottenberg draws on her unique experience to show how we can all take manageable steps to achieve our dreams. Crazy Is a Compliment offers a blend of inspiring stories and practical tools for getting started, going bigger, and integrating work and family. As she writes, "Since everybody has to take risks these days, we all need to be able to derisk risk."
Written with wisdom, wit, and passion, Crazy is a Compliment is a rallying cry for a new approach to business and a blueprint for personal change. The good news is that anybody can initiate those changes. "There are no admission criteria. There is no wardrobe requirement. There is no secret vote. Entrepreneurship is for everyone."
©2014 Linda Rottenberg
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This book is a straight up entrepreneur and hustler text book. It takes an holistic approach via storytelling and practical how others have developed business approach. This book explains different types of styles and growth strategies which is helpful for strategic planning. Personally this book offered be a few stories to learn from, almost like personal mentors. Rottenberg has gifted us a dope personal study/education reference that we all should have on our book shelf.
Less Doing, More Living: Make Everything in Life Easier
"Less is more"—or, more specifically, the less you have to do, the more life you have to live. Efficiency expert Ari Meisel details his "Less Doing" philosophy, which will streamline your life, and make everything easier.
in business and our personal lives, it often seems as if the only way to get more done is by putting in more time—more hours at the office, more days running errands. But what if there were a way that we could do less, and free up more time for the things and people we love? If this sounds like what you need, Ari Meisel—TEDx speaker, efficiency consultant, and achievement architect—has the program for you. In Less Doing, More Living, Meisel explores the fundamental principles of his “Less Doing” philosophy, educating the reader on:
Optimizing workflow with twenty-first-century apps and tools
Creating an “external brain” in the Cloud to do all of your “lower” thinking—like keeping track of appointments, meetings, and ideas
How to use technology to live a paper-free life
The three fundamentals of wellness—fitness, sleep, and nutrition—and technological approaches to improving these areas of life
And so much more!
This book will give readers new tools and techniques for streamlining their workload, being more efficient in their day-to-day activities, and making everything in life easier.
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This book is essential for understanding efficiency. Many of us hustlers and entrepreneurs are control freaks who truly believe we can do everything. A sign that you are truly successful as your chosen endeavour is your ability to delegate. Sometimes delegation looks like automation. Work life balance is essential, this life helps you figure out affordable ways to buy back your time.
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff...And It's All Small Stuff: Simple Things To Keep The Little Things From Taking Over Your Life
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff...and It's All Small Stuff tells you how to keep from letting the little things in life drive you crazy. Richard Carlson reveals ways to calm down in the midst of your incredibly hurried, stress-filled life.
Learn how to put things into perspective by making small daily changes, including advice like "Choose your battles wisely"; "Remind yourself that when you die, your 'in' box won't be empty"; and "Make peace with imperfection". With Don't Sweat the Small Stuff...you'll also learn how to:
• Live in the present moment
• Let others have the glory at times
• Lower your tolerance to stress
• Trust your intuitions
• Live each day as it might be your last
With gentle, supportive suggestions, Dr. Carlson reveals ways to make your actions more peaceful and caring, while making your life more calm and stress-free.
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Many of us are use to the dramatics of life, we find things to dwell on so we can feel deep emotion. This book is a wake up call to remind us that it is not that serious. That road rage that ruins your inner peace is simply not worth it. In business there are many moments that arise that will fell like the world is ending but most of the time a calm head will think of a quick fix. This book offers practical tools for staying calm and living a more harmonious life.
The Tipping Point: How Little Things Can Make a Big Difference
The tipping point is that magic moment when an idea, trend, or social behavior crosses a threshold, tips, and spreads like wildfire. Just as a single sick person can start an epidemic of the flu, so too can a small but precisely targeted push cause a fashion trend, the popularity of a new product, or a drop in the crime rate. This widely acclaimed bestseller, in which Malcolm Gladwell explores and brilliantly illuminates the tipping point phenomenon, is already changing the way people throughout the world think about selling products and disseminating ideas.
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If you have been at it for a while with your art, hustle or business and wondering why you can not pick up traction this book is perfect. The books breaks down the process of how ideas and trends catch fire with a theory that is so relatable its easy to connect to your own life. Personally the take away that was applicable for my life was the importance of the process. The need to have mavens, connectors and sales people are crucial to spreading the word about any budding hustle/idea. Gladwell gives practical examples necessary for manifestation and alchemy using various stories. My personal take away was the factors necessary in the process of building any kind of epidemic or awareness; "These three agents of change I call the Law of the Few, the Stickiness Factor, and the Power of Context".
I Shouldn't Be Telling You This: Success Secrets Every Gutsy Girl Should Know
New York Times bestselling author Kate White is the editor-in-chief of Cosmopolitan, the #1 young women’s magazine in the world, and a hugely successful businesswoman. In I Shouldn’t Be Telling You This, she shares her secrets to success. A witty, wise, straight-talking career guide for women, I Shouldn’t Be Telling You This is the perfect book for the current economic climate, whether you’re just starting out, re-entering the workforce after maternity leave, or simply looking for a career change; essential tips and bold strategies from a gutsy innovator who helped increase Cosmo’s circulation by half a million copies per month.
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This book speaks beautifully to the unique struggles of developing a professional career as a women. It is a known fact the women often play down themselves in negotiating and selling their skills. I started reading this as a way to better understand what I needed from my first assistant. This book is great for those interning and building in the early stages of their career in various capacities. It is written from the perspective of a white women and does not have any race analysis but its still useful for understanding the rules to the game most of us just don't know. This is literally a how to get ahead guide.
Mindful Leadership Training: The Art of Inspiring the Best in Others by Leading from the Inside Out
When you're leading at your best, how does it feel? If the words at ease, engaged, and confident come to mind, then you've experienced what meditators and neuroscientists call mindfulness-awareness. We all have access to this natural confidence?and great leaders live it. Carroll has worked with a remarkable list of clients in fostering healthy workplaces and developing truly distinctive leaders. Here, he shows us how to lead from within, make wiser decisions, and inspire others to contribute their very best in pursuit of excellence.
Michale Carroll, a former executive with Simon & Schuster and Disney, has consulted with Proctor & Gamble, Starbucks, and many other enterprises. A teacher in Tibetan Buddhism's Kagyu-Nyingma lineage, he's lectured at universities around the world and is the author of The Mindful Leader (Trumpeter, 2008) and other influential books. For more, visit awakeatwork.net.
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When I firs started building a team it was difficult for me to feel comfortable as a leader. I truly felt like I was struggling to blend my spirituality and politic with leadership. I valued each person having absolute autonomy but, knew that it was my responsibility to guide this ship. This book provided the much needed resources needed to practice leadership. Carroll provides practical exercise that can be done daily to ensure your leadership style supports inner and outer piece.
The Power of Habit
"In The Power of Habit, Pulitzer Prize–winning business reporter Charles Duhigg takes us to the thrilling edge of scientific discoveries that explain why habits exist and how they can be changed. Distilling vast amounts of information into engrossing narratives that take us from the boardrooms of Procter & Gamble to sidelines of the NFL to the front lines of the civil rights movement, Duhigg presents a whole new understanding of human nature and its potential. At its core, The Power of Habit contains an exhilarating argument: The key to exercising regularly, losing weight, being more productive, and achieving success is understanding how habits work. As Duhigg shows, by harnessing this new science, we can transform our businesses, our communities, and our lives.."
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Have you ever had a bad habit you just couldn't figure out how to break? It could be the way you eat, smoking or that ex you still call. If so this book is for you. My partner gave me this book and at first it was a slow read. I started to love it when I looked at it as a study tool. A way to better understand my own habits and potentially areas for growing my business. I love this book because it has so many stories that are relatable and case studies from large impact people like Martin Luther King. Duhigg helps us to unpack the various variables of human behaviour. The biggest lesson I learned from this book is if you want to change your behaviours you need to plan a head and have a replacement routine in advance. This book dives into will power, movements, the habits of societies, and so much more! A great read before setting intentions.
The Mastery of Love
"In The Mastery of Love, don Miguel Ruiz illuminates the fear-based beliefs and assumptions that undermine love and lead to suffering and drama in our relationships. Using insightful stories to bring his message to life, Ruiz shows us how to heal our emotional wounds, recover the freedom and joy that are our birthright, and restore the spirit of playfulness that is vital to loving relationships. The Mastery of Love includes:
- Why domestication" and the "image of perfection" lead to self-rejection
- The war of control that slowly destroys most relationships
- Why we hunt for love in others, and how to capture the love inside us
- How to finally accept and forgive ourselves and others
"Happiness can only come from inside of you and is the result of your love. When you are aware that no one else can make you happy, and that happiness is the result of your love, this becomes the greatest mastery of the Toltec: the Mastery of Love." - don Miguel Ruiz"
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This book comes out the gate swinging, every chapter is impactful and will push you to reflect. Written in a very matter a fact tone, sometimes it will piss you off. But if you are open minded and willing every word will resonate and lead to potential change. If you know me personally you know I refer back to this book in casual conversation because it is that good! Literally everyone needs to read this. If your single, married or falling in love with you, this book is for you! This book will have you revealing how and why you love the ways you do. This book calls you to be accountable for your self in ways that may make you uncomfortable at first but if your open... “the real mission you have in life is to make yourself happy, and in order to be happy, you have to look at what you believe, the way you judge yourself, the way you victimize yourself”.
Honestly I read this once and I will read it again. Please read this book!
After the sudden death of her husband, Sheryl Sandberg felt certain that she and her children would never feel pure joy again. “I was in ‘the void,’” she writes, “a vast emptiness that fills your heart and lungs and restricts your ability to think or even breathe.” Her friend Adam Grant, a psychologist at Wharton, told her there are concrete steps people can take to recover and rebound from life-shattering experiences. We are not born with a fixed amount of resilience. It is a muscle that everyone can build.
Option B combines Sheryl’s personal insights with Adam’s eye-opening research on finding strength in the face of adversity. Beginning with the gut-wrenching moment when she finds her husband, Dave Goldberg, collapsed on a gym floor, Sheryl opens up her heart—and her journal—to describe the acute grief and isolation she felt in the wake of his death. But Option B goes beyond Sheryl’s loss to explore how a broad range of people have overcome hardships including illness, job loss, sexual assault, natural disasters, and the violence of war. Their stories reveal the capacity of the human spirit to persevere . . . and to rediscover joy.
Resilience comes from deep within us and from support outside us. Even after the most devastating events, it is possible to grow by finding deeper meaning and gaining greater appreciation in our lives. Option B illuminates how to help others in crisis, develop compassion for ourselves, raise strong children, and create resilient families, communities, and workplaces. Many of these lessons can be applied to everyday struggles, allowing us to brave whatever lies ahead. Two weeks after losing her husband, Sheryl was preparing for a father-child activity. “I want Dave,” she cried. Her friend replied, “Option A is not available,” and then promised to help her make the most of Option B.
We all live some form of Option B. This book will help us all make the most of it.
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Let me start by confessing, in my mind there was no way this white women could understand my grief. I though this book would be a nice flip through for ted bits, but bruh! I was wrong, I read it cover to cover, and in about 2 weeks, which is fast for me. This book had amazing critical, race, class, gender, sexuality analysis. Research and story telling tied it all together. The pulse was her own vulnerability and willingness to share the extent of her grief. I absolutely loved it!
This book is not only great for navigating the grief of loosing a loved one but the grief of life changes, disappointment and so much more. So worth the read!!
As little children we know how to live in the moment and be completely authentic. But then something damaging happens to us, according to author Don Miguel Ruiz: we are given "knowledge" about how to live in the world. Parents tell us how to behave in order to be a "good" boy or girl. Teachers tell us what it takes to be a "winner" or a "successful" adult. This collective "voice of knowledge" is not only false--it is often poisonous, explains Ruiz, bestselling author of The Four Agreements. It makes us believe that "I am not the way I should be; it is not okay to be me." Drawing upon the story of Adam and Eve, Ruiz refers to the forbidden tree of knowledge and likens the abandonment of the true self to the fall from heaven. What Ruiz calls "the voice of knowledge" others spiritual teachers might call ego--the hidden and carefully defended belief system that prevents us from living and expressing who we really are. "The structure of our knowledge makes us feel safe .When we discover that we are not what we believe we are, the foundation of our entire reality begins to collapse." In the Toltec tradition, Ruiz says every human is an artist, "and the supreme art is the expression of the beauty of our spirit." He explains that there are two kinds of artists: "the ones who create their story without awareness, and the ones who recover awareness and create their story with truth and love." The recovering of awareness is what this fourth book in the Toltec Wisdom series is all about. This makes for a good bedside spiritual growth book. Each chapter closes with "Points to Ponder"--summary thoughts to sleep upon as you create the more authentic story of your life. --Gail Hudson
Trap My$tic Review:
If you have read any other books from Don you know he is brilliant. He speaks with an old wisdom that can be shocking, offensive but ultimately enlightening. This book came into my life at a time when I just started getting into the idea that I need to trust my heart more. I have always been a deep feeler but guided by logic. I am a Capricorn after all. This is great novel for diving deeper into the emotional self and relying less on logic because of all the way logic is natural flawed, yet positioned as objective. If you are like me and see your self as logical, or if you are very emotional but want to fine tune your approach to understanding and communicating, this book will provide a complete mental shift. If your wondering what book of his to read first I suggest the four agreements, the voice of knowledge then the mastery of love, But ultimately any order will do the job!
The Spirit of Intimacy: Ancient Teachings In The Ways Of Relationships
A renowned, respected teacher and mentor to thousands, Sobonfu Somi is one of the first and foremost voices of African spirituality to come to the West. Somi was born in Dano, Burkina Faso, a remote West African village with a population of about two hundred people. Dano has preserved the old ways of African village life, with family structures, spiritual practices, and methods of living that have been in place for more than ten thousand years. In The Spirit of Intimacy, Somi distills the ancient teachings and wisdom of her native village to give insight into the nature of intimate relationships.
Somi generously applies the subtle knowledge from her West African culture to this one. Simply and beautifully, she reveals the role of spirit in every marriage, friendship, relationship, and community. She shares ancient ways to make our intimate lives more fulfilling and secure and offers powerful insights into the "illusion of romance," divorce, and loss. Her important and fascinating lessons from the heart include the sacred meaning of pleasure, preparing a ritual space for intimacy, and the connection between sex and spirituality. Her ideas are intuitively persuasive, provocative, and healing--and supported by sound practical advice, along with specific rituals and ceremonies based on those used for thousands of years. With this book, the spiritual insights of indigenous Africa take their place alongside those of native America, ancient Europe, and Asia as important influences on Western readers.A renowned, respected teacher and mentor to thousands, Sobonfu Somi is one of the first and foremost voices of African spirituality to come to the West. Somi was born in Dano, Burkina Faso, a remote West African village with a population of about two hundred people. Dano has preserved the old ways of African village life, with family structures, spiritual practices, and methods of living that have been in place for more than ten thousand years. In The Spirit of Intimacy, Somi distills the ancient teachings and wisdom of her native village to give insight into the nature of intimate relationships.
Trap My$tic Review:
This book is a beautiful read because its actually quite small, its essentially just the meat and beans of what you need to know. I recently go married and found this book helpful for digging deeper into what marriage means to me and my understanding of my role in a partnership. She speaks a lot about spirit and the idea that there is you, your partner and the marriage, you each have a spirit and purpose. This helps me to better understand the need to prioritize the needs and spirit of my marriage.
A great quote is: “Marriage is a communion with the spirit allies. Its communion with all the gifts that two people or more are brining together. Its a communion of the things that re at the very core of the soul”
This book is also a great book for the single folks out there who are not necessarily trying to build intimacy with a partner but with spirit. I am a firm believer in rituals. Very firm, I believe there is not a human alive who is absent of rituals, we all have them. The key is make sure our rituals are intentional and aligning with our spirit. This book wonderfully lays out the purpose and practice of ritual in such away that even if you are a beginner you will find space to find some meaning.
“people need rituals in order to release themselves, regather them selves and replenish their strength”
This book is a must reach for any Afro- descendent person on a spiritual path.